Monday, October 16, 2017

Emotions and Depression

Did you know that as much as 50 percent of diseases may be psychosomatic? Therefore, it is not an overstatement that the mind and diseases are interconnected.

Dr. Caroline B. Thomas
, M.D., of John Hopkins School of Medicine discovered that cancer patients often had a prior poor relationship with their parents, attesting to the pivotal role of emotions in the development of cancer. In another study by Dr. Richard B. Shekelle of the University of Texas School of Medicine, it was found that depression patients were not only more cancer prone but also more likely to die of cancer than the other patients. If emotions play a pivotal role in cancer, by the same token, negative emotions may also adversely affect the symptoms or prognosis of any human disease. Thoughts of anger, despair, discontent, frustration, guilt, or resentment are instrumental in depressing the physiological processes, including the body’s immune response—a formula for promoting the development of an autoimmune disease.

According to other studies, strong negative emotions, such as anger, can create destructive mental energy that is health damaging. However, it is not so much in experiencing raging anger as in not experiencing it, or not wanting to experience it that may cause diseases. In addition, feelings of hopelessness and helplessness may also aggravate the symptoms of a disease. When one feels being “trapped” with no way out—such as, when the doctor tells you that there is no cure, except controlling the symptoms of any disease you may have, you naturally feel incapacitated in thinking a solution out of the “dire” situation.

The feeling of being trapped is most destructive in that it incapacitates the mind to come up with a solution to resolve the apparently insoluble situation. This may cause the body to conserve too much oxygen—just like holding one’s breath much too long—that ultimately leads to suffocation, and even death. Continuous feeling of being in a deathtrap deprives one of oxygen, and thus inhibiting the recovery process.

Given the critical role of emotions in disease development, evaluate your emotions, and how your mind may affect them.

Visit my site: Anger Management.

Stephen Lau
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Thursday, October 12, 2017

Another FREE Book for Better Vision

By Stephen Lau

This is a book on using eye exercises to overcome bad vision habits that lead to poor vision. The author explains that the eye is an organ of the body, which is controlled by the mind, vision health is holistic health of the body and the mind. 

Good vision is determined by the flexibility of eye muscles. If you exercise your body, there is no rhyme or reason why you should not exercise your eyes for better vision.

The author himself has poor vision due to his myasthenia gravis, which is an autoimmune disease affecting his eye muscles. He is sharing his own experience to use eye exercises for better vision.

Get this book for FREE. Click here to go to the page for your FREE download.

Stephen Lau

Monday, October 2, 2017

FREE Book for Weight Management!

Don't let overweight depress you. Download this book ABSOLUTELY FREE to lose a few extra pounds without any diet or medication!

All-Round Weight Loss
by Stephen Lau

Everybody wants to lose some weight; some even want to lose a lot more. But almost everybody gains back all the pounds that have been lost, and then some.

Why is that? Because weight loss is not just about eating less—after all, everybody wants to eat more, not less. Weight loss is about everything, just as Oprah Winfrey once said: “My greatest failure was in believing that the weight issue was just about weight.” Oprah was right. Weight loss is all-round; that is, it involves the body, the mind, and the spirit. To illustrate, weight loss is also about the thinking mind; it is the thoughts that make you fat, more than anything else. According to Esther and Jerry Hicks' bestseller "Money and the Law of Attraction," people not only want the food but also believe that the food will make them fat, and thus have created that which they do not want; unfortunately, their thoughts attract what they do not want, so their bodies respond to the thinking mind, and gain instead of losing weight.

Therefore, going on a fad diet, abstaining from certain types of food, reducing calorie consumption-all these only contribute to the weight-loss hype that sustains the billion-dollar weight-loss industry. The consumers forever lose in the battle of the bulge.

ALL-ROUND WEIGHT LOSS is holistic weight management in that it covers every aspect of weight loss, beginning with the mind, the body, and then the spirit, to make weight loss natural and permanent. Only holistic weight management guarantees lasting weight loss. Do not waste money on diets, and weight-loss products and programs that do not work. Follow the author's simple but comprehensive holistic approach to wellness and weight management. Remember, if you are healthy in body, mind, and soul, you will not have any weight problem.

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Stephen Lau

Monday, September 25, 2017

Turn Senior Years into Golden Years

The Creator has given each of us a life to live. Each individual’s life is unique in itself, and everyone’s life journey is paved with his or her personal encounters and events to enrich that unique life experience. Therefore, there is no blueprint for living

Since the beginning of time, man has applied every means to attain longevity basically for two reasons—to defer the inevitable end; and to continue indulging in the pleasurable experiences along the life journey. Some prefer to ignore death and continue to indulge in life pleasures as if it would never come, while others are preoccupied with the impending fate that stresses the body and the mind. No matter what, death is inevitable.

Irrespective of the purpose of everyday living for any individual, the quintessence of living for life is health fitness, without which everyday living may become a daily struggle, a dream turned into a nightmare. Health fitness is a prerequisite for longevity.

Health fitness embraces physical fitness, mental fitness, and spiritual fitness—they impact how you think and what you do; they are the components of living for life. You need physical fitness to reduce the risks of becoming ill, disabled, or dying prematurely. Mental fitness enables you to adapt appropriately to negative changes brought on by diagnosis and treatment of chronic disease. Spiritual fitness may facilitate you to bounce back from the devastating effects brought on by sudden and unexpected changes, such as bereavement of spouse or loved ones.

Life is never static: everyday living is full of challenging changes from time to time. Many of these changes are welcomed and embraced, but some are dreaded and even painful. Being able to cope with these changes in life is fundamental to living for life. More importantly, the ability to bounce back from these undesirable negative changes holds the key to the art of living well.

What is living for life?

Living for life is living with passion and purpose. Nobody is born with the gift of living for life: there is no blueprint for this. It comes from thoughts, behaviors, and actions, and these attributes have to be acquired through mental and physical effort and deliberation. Only health fitness provides an environment for an individual to turn them into a reality. Turn your senior years into your golden years, and don’t become depressed like many seniors do as they continue to advance in their age.

Your Golden Years and Santa Claus shows you the wisdom in happy and successful aging through changing your perspectives in matters of aging, health, money, loss and bereavement issues. It is a holistic approach to living in simplicity with compassion and tranquility in the golden years.  

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Monday, September 18, 2017

Go "Through" Your Depression

If you have a depression, don't avoid it or overcome it with medications; instead, go "through" it with TAO wisdom, and become enlightened.

My Way! No Way! TAO Is The Way!
TAO Wisdom To Live And Survive In A World Of Depression

This book is perhaps one the few books with an unconventional approach to depression, a universal mind disorder. Instead of the conventional ways of avoiding depression with distractions, such as exercise, suppressing its symptoms with affirmations and visualizations, and elevating its depressive moods with medications, this 180-page book uses the ancient wisdom from China, what is known as TAO wisdom, to experience anything and everything in depression, that is, going through every aspect of depression.  

TAO wisdom may enlighten you so that you can ultimately free yourself from depression, or at least look at your own depression very differently.

Here is the INTRODUCTION to the book:

“TAO is neither a religion nor a philosophy.

TAO is simply a way of life about the Way of life, that is, a general way of thinking about everything in life. It is a pathless path of humanity to live as if everything is a miracle.

TAO is the Way through anything and everything in life in order to fully experience them and live in balance and harmony. TAO is not about avoiding or getting out of anything unhappy and undesirable in everyday life, such as depression; rather, it is about going through depression by experiencing every aspect of it in order to become enlightened, if possible, with the profound human wisdom to continue living in peace and harmony in a world of depression.

TAO is looking at life not as a series of both happy and unhappy episodes, but simply as a journey of self-discovery and self-awakening to the real meaning of life existence. You are defined not by your words and thoughts, but by the ways you act and react, as well as the impact you may have on others around you. You exist not because you are simply here; you are here in this world to love and to learn how to live, as well as to help one another do the same.

TAO is formless, shapeless, and inexplicable in words; after all, it had existed long before there were even words. TAO is infinite human wisdom, which is a pathless path to the infinity and the origin of all things.
TAO is not about making your life any easier; it is about acceptance of all aspects of your humanity that need to be fully experienced, embraced, and then to be let go of in order to become wholesome at other times of your life and living—that is the essence of TAO wisdom, which is true enlightenment of the human mind."

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Stephen Lau

Monday, September 11, 2017

Happiness and Human Wisdom

Life is complex, and, as such, living is never simple. That is why you need wisdom in living to make the best and the most out of your life. Given that life is short; avail of every opportunity to create your own box, instead of just thinking out of the box. The art of living well is to create a life uniquely yours that you wish to live.

To many, happiness is the main ingredient in a life well lived. However, happiness is difficult to define, and at times very elusive. For many of them, happiness comes from money, health, and relationships. One does not need abundance to meet the basics in life or to feel material contentment, but one does need reasonably good physical and mental conditions as well as satisfying relationships in order to appreciate the joys of living. All these needs require mind power. In addition, life is not always a bed of roses; there are problems, challenges that are a part and parcel of life and living. Wisdom in living is understanding how to tackle and cope with the difficulties in life. Again, the mind plays a pivotal role. Therefore, it is essential to empower the mind in order to live well.

The art of living well is always mind over matter. After all, the mind controls everything: how you think, how your experience what happens to you, how you perceive your past and present experiences, how you anticipate your future expectations, how you make decisions and take actions that affect your future experiences.

You are who you are and what you have now become is all in the mind; essentially, you are the sum of your thoughts. But how does one control one's mind? Or how does the mind think?

Surprisingly, we have never been taught how to think. When we were young children in the early phase of growth and development, we were exposed to the world around us through our five senses; then our minds began to process what we perceived in our experiences, generalizing and interpreting it according to our mental input, and applying it whenever and wherever we thought appropriate and applicable. Over the years, these perceptions and experiences have become the substances or raw materials with which we think. But this may not be "how" we should think. The human thoughts are like an unbridled horse, which must be tamed first before it can become a stallion. Therefore, it is important to know how your mind works, so that you can empower the mind to work for you instead of against you.

You mind responds to your experiences from your five senses: sight, sound, small, taste, and touch. These sensations are then embedded in your mind, which is made up of a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. Theoretically, you are in perfect control of your conscious mind; that is, you consciously decide what experiences you want to remember or to be stored in your conscious mind. Your subconscious mind, on the other hand, simply absorbs indiscriminately all your mental perceptions and reactions to all your experiences; in other words, it does not reason or analyze your mental input. In actual life, your conscious makes decisions about how you think and what you do. However, it is your subconscious mind that directs your conscious mind; in other words, your subconscious mind controls your conscious mind, although you may not be totally aware of it. Therefore, it is critical that you know how to control your subconscious mind, instrumental in directing your conscious mind. To empower the mind is to control your thinking mind by providing it with an optimum environment for it to function efficiently and effectively.

For more information, visit my website: Wisdom in Living.

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, August 29, 2017

What Triggers Depression

Although unhappiness is the underlying cause of depression, there are many other factors that may actually cause or trigger the onset of depression, because depression does not just happen by itself. If you have the attitude of “my way, or no way” and you do not have the things you want “your way,” you may then become more susceptible and vulnerable to depression.

Disappointment and frustration

Disappointment and frustration are most common experiences, and they can be due to just about anything in life. But one of the most common sources is people: from one's spouse who does not meet one's expectations; from one's children, who are disobedient or rebellious to one's values and principles; from one's parents who do not approve of one's behavior and temperament, or, even worse, who wish they had never given birth to one.

Disappointment and frustration are more acutely felt when an individual has a distinct and strong ego-self, who loves himself or herself more than anyone else.

Self-criticism and self-denial

Self-acceptance is an important element in the art of living well. We must all learn to accept ourselves as who we are, and not as who we wish we were. We must never cherish unrealistic expectations of ourselves, which may lead to low self-esteem. In other words, a perfectionist, ironically enough, may become more easily susceptible to the ultimate lack of self-esteem, which is often expressed in depression.

The bottom line: if you cannot accept yourself as who you are in spite of your imperfections and shortcomings, how can you accept others as who they are? If you do not love yourself as who you are, how can you love others as who they are? Therefore, self-acceptance holds the key to having better relationships with others, which is often the source of human happiness.

Comparison and contrast

We all have the tendency to compare ourselves with others, or even with ourselves at different stages in our lives. This comparison and contrast may lead to depression.

Despair and despondency

Feeling trapped in a dire situation or circumstance with no foreseeable exit only distresses the mind. It could be any situation or circumstance, such as getting an unwanted pregnancy, having several children early in a marriage saddled with many financial burdens but with no vocational skill, being stuck in a bad love relationship with no way out, and many other despairing and despondent situations.

Adversity and loss

Adversity and loss are inevitable in life. Adversity may come in many different forms, such as accidents, injuries, and diseases; while loss can be physical loss, such as loss of mobility, material loss, such as loss of a home due to foreclosure, mental loss, such as loss of memory, spousal loss, such as separation or bereavement, and spiritual loss, such as loss of life purpose and meaningful existence in life.

Inactivity and lack of goals

An inactive individual is more vulnerable to depression, because that individual spends most of his or her time drifting about and doing nothing in particular. By the same token, an individual lacking life goals ceases to struggle in life—that may explain why depression is more frequent among the senior and the elderly. Man is basically a goal-seeking creature. Therefore, after reaching one goal, an individual should set another higher goal in order to avoid the feeling of being letdown after the achievement of the goal, and thus setting off a depression.

Regret and self-pity

A depressed individual often looks back at the past with anger and bitterness, accompanied by regret and self-pity. "What if" and "I wish it were" are always on the mind of that depressed individual, wishing things were different. Regret and self-pity always go hand in hand with that depressed individual.

Biological malfunction and chemical imbalance

Of course, with the advancement of modern medicine, medical authorities have now attributed many cases of depression to biological malfunction, such as an abnormal thyroid, or imbalance of certain brain chemicals. However, it should be pointed out that it is difficult to determine whether it is the thinking mind or the chemical imbalance that actually causes the biological malfunctioning. The explanation is that an individual's own negative or self-destructive thinking patterns may also ultimately lead to the chemical and hormonal imbalance in that individual.

Therefore, we should always look at the whole picture, and not just a part of it; after all, depression is a complex and complicated disease of the mind, and we are also living in a world of depression.

Stephen Lau      
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Sunday, August 20, 2017

A Healthy Mind with a Healthy Body

Hippocrates, the father oi medicine, once said: "Let food be your medicine, and medicine your food."
An anti-depression diet should be your medicine to protect you from depression. A healthy mind goes hand in hand with a healthy body. health is in your hands. An anti-depression diet comes from a healthy body.

Rethink your junk food

Depression is about your moods. Junk food may satisfy your immediate craving and give you momentary satisfaction. Foods made from refined white flour and white sugar, as well as pop sodas, quickly cause a spike in your blood sugar and then a drastic drop. That is how they can adversely affect your moods.

Is it worthwhile to have less junk food and fewer pop sodas in return for better moods in the long run? The choice is all yours.

Learn how to avoid using food to control your emotions, which is one of the causes of eating disorders, such as anorexia and bulimia

Rethink your healthy body

An anti-depression diet is possible only with a healthy body. An unhealthy body may not be able to absorb nutrients necessary for promoting good physical and mental health.


Detoxify your body: get rid of all toxins accumulated over the years. 

You may detoxify your body by foods: alfalfa sprouts, beets, burdock, chlorella, and green barley.

You may also detoxify your body by water. Detox Bath is a process that allows you to eliminate unwanted and harmful waste matters from your body. By encouraging your body to flush out efficiently toxic deposits, you will not only boost your health and well being, but also strengthen your immune system and prevent disease.

You may also detoxify your body by using 
foot patches. The use of foot patches is an easy and unobtrusive way to assist your body in the removal of a myriad of pollutants that invade your body on a daily basis, as well as the health-repressive toxic accumulations that prevent your body from achieving the true wellness you really should be experiencing.

Two Japanese doctors, after spending years in search for the secrets behind longevity and wellness, eventually unlocked the mystical powers and energy in the growth of trees. 

They made the groundbreaking discovery that trees could grow and flourish for years even under the worst weather conditions due to the presence of 
wood vinegar essence, which enables the absorption of water and nutrients through the process of osmosis. 

According to Chinese medical knowledge, the human body has over 360 acupuncture points, with more than 60 acupuncture points found on the sole of the foot alone. Your feet, also known as the “second heart,” contain the reflective zones of your internal organs, where your body toxins accumulate and dissipate. For centuries, Chinese medical study has held the view that due to gravity, toxins tend to go downwards in your body during the day, accumulating from the tips of the toes to the ankles. 

Accordingly, when applied to the soles of your feet overnight, these 
foot patches not only warm up to open pores of the skin but also stimulate the reflex zones on your soles to draw out and absorb accumulated wastes under osmotic pressure from the blood and lymph systems in your body. 
When lying horizontally, your body fluids collect in your head and feet. There is an acupuncture point on each of the sole of your feet, known as “gushing water spring,” through which excess toxins and moisture from your body will be excreted into the foot patches.
By applying 
foot patches on your feet while sleeping, you may be able to extract toxins from your body through the process of osmosis in the form of moisture from your soles. 

Foot patches have substantial health benefits for the heart, the liver, and for a good restful sleep which is an essential component of a healthy lifestyle. Foot patches with natural ingredients are effective in detoxifying your body.

You may also detoxify your body by pure water fast. 

Eat Stop Eat is not about eating certain types of food to lose weight or burn fat. It is not about slowing down metabolism or starving yourself. It is about saving money, being flexible in eating, and boosting energy to burn fat and lose weight.

The Complete Body Detox
 is a highly recommended program on detoxifying your body.


Maintain a balanced acid and alkaline level in your body.
The Acid Alkaline Diet provides excellent information on how to alkalize your diet. Many anti-aging experts believe that a balance of acidity and alkalinity in your body holds the key to good health and longevity. 

Always stay away from all processed foods, and remove sugar from your diet. A healthful diet has no place for chemicals and sugar.

Go organic as much as possible. Give yourself a healthy body to have a healthy mind.

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Unfairness and Inequality

We all have depression, which is no respecter of persons, although the intensity of the disorder may vary significantly.

One of the main triggers of human depression is a feeling of unfairness and inequality that may stem from our perceptions and comparisons with others. This trigger raises many internal questions that we often ask when we are alone by ourselves: “I am smarter than my brother, but why is he having a better destiny than mine?”; “My daughter is the prettiest among all her friends, but why is it that she doesn’t even have a boyfriend?”; “My father is a very nice person, but why is everyone taking advantage of him?”; “My former neighbor stole money from the company he used to work with, and now he is the CEO of this big corporate company, where is the justice?”

Don’t we all have many similar questions unanswered? If we continue to look for answers to those unanswerable questions, we would only succumb ourselves to depression. In life, there are many questions we may never have an answer simply because of the following:

We are limited in our knowledge, and we always see only one side of everything. 

Our perceptions are inaccurate because we all have too many assumptive resumptions.

We are finite: we see only the present and, at most, the near future. The Creator is infinite, and to Him everything is timeless. 

But many of us still demand some sort of answers to satisfy our desire for fairness and equality, not to mention justice. In life, there are many questions which may never have an answer. But in TAO the wisdom of the ancient Chinese sage, Lao Tzu, the answer is always deep within us.

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, August 8, 2017

Career and Depression

Career often carries bag and baggage that may lead to depression. The bag and baggage may include career change, career setbacks, career termination, and among others.

Career change

It is never too late to change your career and be who you are meant to be. But your desire to change your career should be greater than your fear of failure when taking the challenge to change. Remember, the disappointment you feel today may become the strength to face the challenge you encounter tomorrow.

TAO wisdom

According to TAO, the wisdom of the ancient Chinese sage Lao Tzu, always have an empty mind because nothing is set in stone, and change your career without any fear or expectation.

“Following the conditioned mind, we fear everything.
Fear is a futile attempt to control things and people.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 74)

Career setbacks
Throughout one’s lifespan, career setbacks are often times unavoidable. According to TAO, what goes up must also come down. Career setbacks may give an individual a period of shock, denial, and self-doubt. Indeed, many individuals may experience trouble in accepting the realities of career setbacks, and thus adding regret and resentment to their bag and baggage.

TAO wisdom

Learn to accept everything in life as it is. Instead of wasting your internal energy raging against your self-perceived unfair fate in your career, direct your energy to creating a better reality. To transform that into a reality, an individual must determine why he or she failed, must explore new paths, and must seize the right opportunity with the right mind. Remember, a career setback may be a springboard to future success.

“We accept all that is simple and humble.
We embrace the good fortune and the misfortune.
Thus, we become masters of every situation.
We overcome the painful and the difficult in our lives.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 78)

To choose a career, to pursue a career, to change a career, or to end a career—they all require human wisdom, without which depression may set in, turning life into a life not worth living.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Emotions and Depression

Did you know that as much as 50 percent of diseases may be psychosomatic? Therefore, it is not an overstatement that the mind and diseases ...