Sunday, August 20, 2017

A Healthy Mind with a Healthy Body

Hippocrates, the father oi medicine, once said: "Let food be your medicine, and medicine your food."
An anti-depression diet should be your medicine to protect you from depression. A healthy mind goes hand in hand with a healthy body. health is in your hands. An anti-depression diet comes from a healthy body.

Rethink your junk food

Depression is about your moods. Junk food may satisfy your immediate craving and give you momentary satisfaction. Foods made from refined white flour and white sugar, as well as pop sodas, quickly cause a spike in your blood sugar and then a drastic drop. That is how they can adversely affect your moods.

Is it worthwhile to have less junk food and fewer pop sodas in return for better moods in the long run? The choice is all yours.

Learn how to avoid using food to control your emotions, which is one of the causes of eating disorders, such as anorexia and bulimia

Rethink your healthy body

An anti-depression diet is possible only with a healthy body. An unhealthy body may not be able to absorb nutrients necessary for promoting good physical and mental health.


Detoxify your body: get rid of all toxins accumulated over the years. 

You may detoxify your body by foods: alfalfa sprouts, beets, burdock, chlorella, and green barley.

You may also detoxify your body by water. Detox Bath is a process that allows you to eliminate unwanted and harmful waste matters from your body. By encouraging your body to flush out efficiently toxic deposits, you will not only boost your health and well being, but also strengthen your immune system and prevent disease.

You may also detoxify your body by using 
foot patches. The use of foot patches is an easy and unobtrusive way to assist your body in the removal of a myriad of pollutants that invade your body on a daily basis, as well as the health-repressive toxic accumulations that prevent your body from achieving the true wellness you really should be experiencing.

Two Japanese doctors, after spending years in search for the secrets behind longevity and wellness, eventually unlocked the mystical powers and energy in the growth of trees. 

They made the groundbreaking discovery that trees could grow and flourish for years even under the worst weather conditions due to the presence of 
wood vinegar essence, which enables the absorption of water and nutrients through the process of osmosis. 

According to Chinese medical knowledge, the human body has over 360 acupuncture points, with more than 60 acupuncture points found on the sole of the foot alone. Your feet, also known as the “second heart,” contain the reflective zones of your internal organs, where your body toxins accumulate and dissipate. For centuries, Chinese medical study has held the view that due to gravity, toxins tend to go downwards in your body during the day, accumulating from the tips of the toes to the ankles. 

Accordingly, when applied to the soles of your feet overnight, these 
foot patches not only warm up to open pores of the skin but also stimulate the reflex zones on your soles to draw out and absorb accumulated wastes under osmotic pressure from the blood and lymph systems in your body. 
When lying horizontally, your body fluids collect in your head and feet. There is an acupuncture point on each of the sole of your feet, known as “gushing water spring,” through which excess toxins and moisture from your body will be excreted into the foot patches.
By applying 
foot patches on your feet while sleeping, you may be able to extract toxins from your body through the process of osmosis in the form of moisture from your soles. 

Foot patches have substantial health benefits for the heart, the liver, and for a good restful sleep which is an essential component of a healthy lifestyle. Foot patches with natural ingredients are effective in detoxifying your body.

You may also detoxify your body by pure water fast. 

Eat Stop Eat is not about eating certain types of food to lose weight or burn fat. It is not about slowing down metabolism or starving yourself. It is about saving money, being flexible in eating, and boosting energy to burn fat and lose weight.

The Complete Body Detox
 is a highly recommended program on detoxifying your body.


Maintain a balanced acid and alkaline level in your body.
The Acid Alkaline Diet provides excellent information on how to alkalize your diet. Many anti-aging experts believe that a balance of acidity and alkalinity in your body holds the key to good health and longevity. 

Always stay away from all processed foods, and remove sugar from your diet. A healthful diet has no place for chemicals and sugar.

Go organic as much as possible. Give yourself a healthy body to have a healthy mind.

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Unfairness and Inequality

We all have depression, which is no respecter of persons, although the intensity of the disorder may vary significantly.

One of the main triggers of human depression is a feeling of unfairness and inequality that may stem from our perceptions and comparisons with others. This trigger raises many internal questions that we often ask when we are alone by ourselves: “I am smarter than my brother, but why is he having a better destiny than mine?”; “My daughter is the prettiest among all her friends, but why is it that she doesn’t even have a boyfriend?”; “My father is a very nice person, but why is everyone taking advantage of him?”; “My former neighbor stole money from the company he used to work with, and now he is the CEO of this big corporate company, where is the justice?”

Don’t we all have many similar questions unanswered? If we continue to look for answers to those unanswerable questions, we would only succumb ourselves to depression. In life, there are many questions we may never have an answer simply because of the following:

We are limited in our knowledge, and we always see only one side of everything. 

Our perceptions are inaccurate because we all have too many assumptive resumptions.

We are finite: we see only the present and, at most, the near future. The Creator is infinite, and to Him everything is timeless. 

But many of us still demand some sort of answers to satisfy our desire for fairness and equality, not to mention justice. In life, there are many questions which may never have an answer. But in TAO the wisdom of the ancient Chinese sage, Lao Tzu, the answer is always deep within us.

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, August 8, 2017

Career and Depression

Career often carries bag and baggage that may lead to depression. The bag and baggage may include career change, career setbacks, career termination, and among others.

Career change

It is never too late to change your career and be who you are meant to be. But your desire to change your career should be greater than your fear of failure when taking the challenge to change. Remember, the disappointment you feel today may become the strength to face the challenge you encounter tomorrow.

TAO wisdom

According to TAO, the wisdom of the ancient Chinese sage Lao Tzu, always have an empty mind because nothing is set in stone, and change your career without any fear or expectation.

“Following the conditioned mind, we fear everything.
Fear is a futile attempt to control things and people.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 74)

Career setbacks
Throughout one’s lifespan, career setbacks are often times unavoidable. According to TAO, what goes up must also come down. Career setbacks may give an individual a period of shock, denial, and self-doubt. Indeed, many individuals may experience trouble in accepting the realities of career setbacks, and thus adding regret and resentment to their bag and baggage.

TAO wisdom

Learn to accept everything in life as it is. Instead of wasting your internal energy raging against your self-perceived unfair fate in your career, direct your energy to creating a better reality. To transform that into a reality, an individual must determine why he or she failed, must explore new paths, and must seize the right opportunity with the right mind. Remember, a career setback may be a springboard to future success.

“We accept all that is simple and humble.
We embrace the good fortune and the misfortune.
Thus, we become masters of every situation.
We overcome the painful and the difficult in our lives.”
(Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching, Chapter 78)

To choose a career, to pursue a career, to change a career, or to end a career—they all require human wisdom, without which depression may set in, turning life into a life not worth living.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Questions about Depression

“Am I depressed?” is just one of the many questions you need to ask yourself in the course of your life and living. Nobody but you have the answer to that question because it is your life and nobody can live it for you, let alone giving you the answer to that simple but difficult question.

Ask and answer many more questions as you go along your life journey, thereby instrumental in awakening your self-enlightenment and understanding why you may have become depressed.

Some of these probing questions you may want to ask include the following:

Who am I? How would I describe myself?
What are my life passions? Why am I passionate about them?
What are my achievements in life to date?  Am I proud of them, and why?
Do I have a role model in my life?  Do I ever wish I were that role model?
Do I love myself? If not, why not?
At this point in my life, am I worried about my future?

The Depressed People

Depressed people may have the following in common:

Identity crisis

They do not know who they really are. That is, they may have falsely identified themselves with something in the world they are living in, such as “I am a successful business-man” or “I am a good mother.”

Once they have created false identities for themselves, they naturally feel the need to protect and preserve their self-created images. In doing so, they desperately want to control their destinies, such as avoiding what they fear may taint their identities, or repeating what they previously did in order to sustain and substantiate their identities.

The truth of the matter

You are who you are, and not who you would like to be.

To illustrate

A “successful businessman” may want to overwork in order to avoid in future all possible failures in his or her business, or to repeat in future all his or her past successful business endeavors.

A “good mother” may strive to control the behaviors of her children in order to control and shape them into the individuals she wants them to become to prove that she is a good mother.

In the process of avoiding failure and expecting success to repeat, stress is not only unduly created but also aggravated by outcomes falling short of their expectations. Nowadays, many people are living to escape yesterday’s pains and to anticipate tomorrow’s pleasures; unfortunately, they are on the road to more unhappiness, and not less.

Not letting go

Depressed people simply refuse to let go of what they think belong permanently to them, and anticipate what they think they rightly deserve through their efforts to control or influence outcomes of events in their daily lives. They are afraid of any unforeseeable change, especially death that puts an end to everything they have delusively created for themselves. They won’t let go of the past, whether it was pleasant or unpleasant.

My Way! No Way! Tao Is the Way shows you the wisdom to go through your depression instead of avoiding it with medications and other distractions.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Friday, June 30, 2017

The Happiness Myths

Happiness is only an abstraction, a far-fetched thought that is often elusive and evasive; it is difficult not only to define but also to understand. To further the complication, happiness often creates certain misleading myths.

The myth: the happiness sources

It is always a myth that abundant wealth, good health, and satisfying relationships—what most people crave and pursue in their lives—will bring them happiness. Abundant wealth, good health, and satisfying relationships are only the byproducts of happiness; they do not cause or bring true and lasting happiness in real life.

To illustrate, many lottery winners attest to their experiences of temporary ecstatic happiness, and nearly all winners confess that their winning has ultimately made them miserable and unhappy for various reasons. Maybe once the initial stimulus of sudden wealth and the drastic changes of lifestyle have worn off, they ultimately return to their original baseline level of happiness or unhappiness. Or, maybe, according to some experts, having too much pleasure—what is known as “eustress”—could also cause stress, just as lacking in pleasure might be stressful to the many have-nots.

The myth: the happiness effort

It is also a myth that happiness is something that can be pursued with willpower and effort. The Bible rightly says that pursuing happiness is just “like chasing the wind.” (Ecclesiastes 2:11)

Effort does not necessarily bring happiness; it only creates the illusion of an environment that is conducive to temporary happiness. To illustrate, one may work diligently in one’s career to excel and to get to the top of the profession only to find that one has a terminal illness, or has incurred a debilitating accident. For example, Steve Job, the co-founder of Apple computers, had his life cut short by pancreatic cancer at the height of his successful business career.

Pursuing happiness may be only a fantasy fueled by temporary moments of happiness, because aging, illnesses, misfortunes, and ultimately death plague all alike; in other words, impermanence cuts short all human efforts and endeavors to bring happiness. We are all aware of the fact that impermanence is an ultimate leveler of everybody and everything, but many of us still choose to delude ourselves into thinking otherwise. Denial only fosters the myth that if there is a will there must always be a way to attaining happiness, and that all it requires is the human effort to make any dream come true. 

Without happiness, many may become depressed. TAO wisdom will show you how to get out of depression.

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Monday, June 26, 2017

Depression Symptoms

It’s a recession when your neighbor loses his job; it’s a depression when you lose yours.” Harry S Truman

We are all depressed, with no exception; just do not deny or stigmatize depression. It is because we are living in a world of depression that can make us unhappy in many different ways, and we are all vulnerable.

Depression is always an inner struggle against unhappiness and insecurity; it is a deliberate and desperate but futile attempt to lose contact with the realities of life. Depression is no more than a mental escape from the inescapable.

Depression is evidenced by many symptoms that may be imperceptible in the beginning, but these symptoms often get worse if they are not properly addressed.

Depression begins in the mind, affecting the emotions and feelings of an individual, with some of the most common symptoms, including the following:

Lethargy and loss of appetite

A depressed individual begins to feel lethargy and listlessness without any apparent reason. The mind simply refuses to function, causing physical tiredness and even loss of appetite.

Involuntary tendency to weep

Many depressed individuals get the sudden “weeps”—a tale-telling sign of the beginning of depression.

Irritability and hostility

A depressed individual, who is often passive or inactive, may express irritability towards someone who wishes to activate that individual physically or mentally.

A depressed individual may also initially express hostility directed towards someone who has rejected or insulted him or her, before turning that hostility inward at himself or herself.

Sadness and hopelessness

The most common symptom of depression, of course, is feeling sadness and hopelessness that may drag over a long period of time. The almost worldwide symptom of all depressed people is withdrawal from others, including the loved ones due to their loss of affection for self and others.

The bottom line: overcome your depression not by avoiding it with distractions, not by taking medications to suppress its symptoms, but by going through it with TAO wisdom, known as the Way, the ancient wisdom from China more than 2,600 years ago. The Way is the only way. 

Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau

Friday, June 23, 2017

Career Choices Can Cause Depression

To choose a career, to pursue a career, to change a career, or to end a career—they often come with the bag and baggage of the signs and symptoms of depression, such as fear, regret, disappointment, and among others.

Career choices

A case in point

A Chinese couple in Canada have a son who wants to pursue a career in the entertainment industry. Their son in his early thirties decided to go to Beijing to learn the Chinese language as a prerequisite of his career pursuit. His parents have opposed to the idea of living in Beijing, or rather pursuing a career in the entertainment industry.

The different perspectives

From the parents’ perspectives: a really successful career in the entertainment industry is few and far between, especially if it is not pursued at a much younger age.

From the son’s perspectives: money, glamour, and quick recognition often come with success in a career in the entertainment industry.

The ultimate truths

A be-all-and-end-all career based on only one variable, which is money, may not turn out that way.

Any glamorous career is always competitive, but it does not mean it is unachievable at any age. Have an empty mind that everything is doable and achievable irrespective of the age.

Recognition should not be the only primary reason for pursuing any career; rather, passion should be the driving force behind.

Easy success in any human endeavor hurts ultimately, especially a career in the long term, because it does not expand an individual’s capacity and capability to deal with problems when they get tough, or to have the persistence to go through them when things do not turn out as expected. Hard-earned success, on the other hand, may prepare an individual for more success in the future through persistence and perseverance. 

The reality

There is no right or wrong in the choice or pursuit of your career; after all, it is your career, and others may be looking at your career from their own perspectives.

Follow your passion, not people or what they say. Success comes from hard work, and not from wishful thinking. Spend your internal energy pursuing what you want, not defending or explaining why you want it; the latter has to do with your ego. Always ask yourself many self-intuitive questions about why and how you want to pursue your career goals.

TAO wisdom

According to TAO, choosing a career is like digging a well. Did you choose the right spot? Have you dug deep enough? If nothing happens according to your expectation, then self-doubt, reinforced by fear and uncertainty, may make you go for another spot. Going for another spot and yet another one may only bring you further frustration and more disappointment.

The bottom line: carefully choose your career, apply persistent effort, and you will find your initial investment of time and effort rewarding. Even if you choose to move on after a while, you will still find it very worthwhile because you have learned something from it TAO says that giving up is not an admission of defeat or disappointment; rather, giving up is letting go of any resistance when dealing with the chaos of life, and redirecting your energy to a higher purpose.

This book is perhaps one the few books with an unconventional approach to depression, a universal mind disorder. Instead of the conventional ways of avoiding depression with distractions, such as exercise, suppressing its symptoms with affirmations and visualizations, and elevating its depressive moods with medications, this 180-page book uses the ancient wisdom from China, what is known as TAO wisdom, to experience anything and everything in depression, that is, going through every aspect of depression.  

TAO wisdom may enlighten you so that you can ultimately free yourself from depression, or at least look at your own depression very differently.

Stephen Lau
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Tuesday, June 20, 2017

The Right Mental Attitudes for the Depressive Mind

Your health is dependent on your mental habits acquired in childhood, that is, your mental attitudes. Your emotional reactions strongly affect your immune system, circulatory system, and, most importantly, your brain — they all control your overall well-being, especially your mental wellness.

Your mental attitudes develop your health cognitions and form your health behaviors. Therefore, mental attitudes play a pivotal role in your mental depression

Adopting the Health-Seeking Attitude

According to a study, consumers who sought out healthy lifestyle information on the Internet were more health conscious and more health-information oriented than those other consumers who did not seek out health information. 

Remember, seek and you shall find. You don't have to look any further. YOU have got all the answers to your major depression: they are all within yourself. They are all in your mind!

Adopt a health-seeking mental attitude to empower yourself with everything you need to know about mental depression.

Learn the art of getting what you want out of life. If you find yourself facing constant frustration from never-ending problems in life, or you feel as though your life is a proverbial treadmill, not going anywhere. Now is the time to take charge of your life. It is all in your subconscious mind that is the real power center of your being and the "headquarters" of your body. Use state-of-the-art subliminal messages to transform your subconscious mind in order to change your conscious mind.

Abandoning the Magic-Bullet Attitude

There is no magic bullet, and there are no miracle cures. Seeking a magic bullet only exacerbates and perpetuates your depressive episodes. 

Why is a magic bullet bad for your mental health, or your overall health, for that matter?

Looking for a magic bullet is essentially giving away your problems to a health expert. Remember, it is your problems — someone else can only “help” you solve your problems but cannot solve the problems for you.

Looking for a quick fix, you are, in fact, giving up your role and responsibility in managing your mental disorder. Not recognizing your role and responsibility in life is one of the underlying causes of mental illness.

Looking for a panacea will end up in taking more depression medications, making your body more toxic and recovery more difficult.

Remember, there are no miracle cures. You hold the cure in your own hands. Recovery lies in your mental attitudes.

Aborting the Procrastination Attitude

You may have the best doctor, the best medications, the best therapist, but you need the persistence and perseverance to follow the doctor’s advice, to take the medications, and to go and talk to the therapist. 

Unfortunately, this is what is lacking in many patients with depression problems. They know the way, but they do not have the will. Remember, mental depression is a disease of the mind. It is not something you can overcome with the willpower. If they had the willpower, they would not be sick in the first place.

Depression is also a result of behavioral problems. Behavior is habit-forming. Therefore, you must learn to develop mental attitudes to remove those bad habits or behavioral problems that may have contributed inadvertently to your depression disorder.With the right mental attitudes, you can eradicate your behavioral problems to remove your mental depression.


One of the most devastating habits is procrastination. It is human nature to procrastinate. We all procrastinate. Procrastination is due to mental anticipation of the difficulties in the process and the unpleasantness of the outcome of an action. Procrastination is detrimental to mental health. This is more so in individuals with major depression. But is inertia or inaction a result of -- or a cause of -- mental depression? 

Behavior therapy will benefit individuals who wish to overcome procrastination.

Start living the life you choose instead of the life that “just happens.” There is a big difference between knowing what to do and doing what you know. 

The only things you will regret in your life are the things you never did.

Do not be one of the procrastinators who spend their whole lives postponing what they "should do" and in doing that they never get to do what they "want to do."

Do not let procrastination be one of the biggest "dream killers" in your life. Your inability to take action slowly eats away your self-esteem. When you finally decide and take action, you will immediately feel a sense of accomplishment and that feeling is what builds massive self-esteem, which is crucial to your fight against major depression. 

Do not let procrastination leave you feeling hopeless and helpless, and, after depleting your emotional strength, make you feel totally depressed. 

Rethink Mental Attitudes 

Let your mind control your body, and not the other way around. The mind cannot be separated from the body. What you feed your mind is as important as what you feed your body. Your mind affects your health as much as your body does, in particular, in major depression. Rethink your mental attitudes.

Rethink health attitude

Feed your mind with the right attitude towards mental health. If you are paranoid, admit your paranoia. Sticking your head in the sand will not do your head any good.

If you keep on doing what you have been doing all your life, you will continue to be what you have been for the rest of your life. 

Rethink the magic bullet 

There are no miracle cures. You are the healer. Do something about your life. It is YOUR life, and only YOU can change it, not someone else, not your doctor, not your therapist, and not your spouse, especially if you do not listen to him or her.

Rethink procrastination 

Do something about your procrastination, and do it NOW. Sir Walter Scott once said: “The three greatest letters in the English alphabet are N-O-W.” 

Rethink your mental attitudes! Change your mental attitudes, and begin living as if everything is a miracle.

TAO is looking at life not as a series of both happy and unhappy episodes, but simply as a journey of self-discovery and self-awakening to the real meaning of life existence. You are defined not by your words and thoughts, but by the ways you act and react, as well as the impact you may have on others around you. You exist not because you are simply here; you are here in this world to love and to learn how to live, as well as to help one another do the same."

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Stephen Lau
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A Healthy Mind with a Healthy Body

Hippocrates , the father oi medicine, once said :   "Let food be your medicine, and medicine your food . "   An anti-depressio...