Be A Better And Happier
Individual
Is it possible to become a better person than you actually are?
Maybe.
Always look at yourself and others from the whole
perspective that anything is every thing, and you may then become a better and
happier you.
Perspective and Judgment
Through repeated mental training, you may begin to change
for the better: becoming less easily angry and more readily loving and
forgiving. More importantly, you may become more capable of assessing and
analyzing the long- and short-term consequences of your actions on yourself as
well as those on others.
Gradually, you may no longer identify anyone as your
“enemy” because, according to Tao wisdom, there should be no judgment, which is
no comparison. With no judgment, you may also begin to see anything and
everything in perspective, and in its own reality. All material things, people,
and even your own body may not be the sources of your happiness. Instead, the
material things you always crave may make you sad, the people you love may give
your trouble, and the body you own may give you pain.
No judgment is part and parcel
of letting go, one of the essentials of Tao wisdom, and an indispensable
ingredient in eliminating anger and envy, among many other negative emotions
that are the real destroyers of your happiness in life.
Hope and Despair
Mental calmness, which naturally brings mindfulness and
concentration, is not only a powerful mental tool to develop true human wisdom,
but also a recurrent source of genuine human happiness. Mental calmness gives
rise to joy. Any external enemy, no matter how powerful, is unable to strike
directly at your mental calmness, which is formless and hence untouchable. Only
anger can destroy your mental calmness. To overcome anger, hatred, and other
related negative emotions, train yourself to smile when you look at yourself in
the mirror on waking up every morning. Your smile will bring altruism, love,
and compassion. As you develop your basic sense of humanity, hope will also be
born. Hope is not expectation.
There are two kinds of hope: authentic hope and
false hope. Authentic hope is a genuine belief in the goodness of human nature.
False hope is expectation of results due to human efforts; more specifically,
it is based on the human ego believing that “extra” human efforts can achieve
and satisfy human desires, which include greed.
According to Tao wisdom,
expectation is the source of all human pain, which includes disappointment,
leading to anger, despair, and regret, among many other negative emotions that
may ultimately become your toxic thoughts and memories that make you unhappy.
Stephen Lau
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